There is an age-old adage that says there is a reason the things and the people of your past do not make it to your future. Also, the likes of- when the past calls, don’t answer…chances are it has nothing new to say. The mere idea of leaving behind the things and people who no longer serve us or help us to grow in the future, can be overwhelming to say the least. The notion that one day we are surrounded by people who want the best for us, and the next these people can be gone by our own choosing is a tough pill to swallow. However, sometimes, it is completely necessary to take yourself to the next level. I have been blessed enough to have so many amazing friends on this crazy journey I call life, and all of them bring to the table something different and magnificent, but that wasn’t always the case. Re-evaluating my inner circle and those who I allow in it, was and continues to be one of the biggest challenges I’ve ever faced. In life, it is common to outgrow relationships, friendships and situations. We are taught that this is all part of the “growing up process,” and the act of relinquishing people from our lives who threaten our happiness, sense of self, well-being, and ultimately anything or anyone who tries to keep us small, is of vital importance. Oftentimes, we allow people to remain in our lives far longer than they deserve to be, and award them more time than they actually are worthy of. The people you attract, tolerate and entertain in your life, are a direct reflection of your self-worth. If you aren’t happy with how they are treating you, raise your bar. We all have been exposed to (and probably for far too long) that one friend or acquaintance who can literally turn every positive into a negative. You know which one I mean. The one who after leaving their presence you feel dirty and have the urge to cleanse your aura. Enter: “The Eternal Pessimist,” Having one of these bad-boys in your life can change not only how you view the things in your life, but also the things that actually come into your life. The idea that a person who is not yourself can quite literally block good things from coming into your life with just their attitude is an idea that may be crazy to many, but think about it for a minute. If being around people who are perpetually happy can increase your level of happiness, what would make one think that being around toxicity wouldn’t bring you down? Attention Pessimists: please don’t let the door hit you on the way out! Not everyone in your life is going to want, accept, or know how to receive your energy as you are going thru this inevitable “shedding” phase of your life. Make peace with this, and move on. Being unapologetic in your evolution and being ruthless in editing your life and who you will allow to remain in it, will be one of the best decisions you will ever make. Reaching the point in your life where you have no more time, energy or desire for meaningless friendships, forced interactions or unnecessary conversations and being ok with it, is the ultimate goal for this phase of life. Based solely on my personal experience, very few things have transformed my life and perspective more than realizing that it’s a waste of time evaluating my worth by taking to heart the opinions of the people in the crowd. The people I allow into my inner circle? The ones who make me feel blessed, not stressed. NEVER apologize for evolving past someone else’s comfort zone. Unfortunately, we can’t always change the people around us, however, we most certainly can change the people we choose to be around. My advice to you today, immediately let go of anyone who poisons your spirit. They are no longer worth your time or energy. In doing so, I guarantee you will see a major difference in your life, the abundance around you, and this elusive feeling of weightlessness that you didn’t even know was once holding you down.
